Yesterday was Father's Day and I had te pleasure of spending the day with three of my five children and it got me thinking about what type of Father am I? I am a 45 year old man with three kids from my first marriage, all born in the mid to late Ninties, a 10 year old step-daughter and a 11 month old son, whom I had with my wife.
Being a father is the thing I am most proud of . I am involved in my children's lives and am not afraid to show the softer side by showering them with hugs and kisses, and telling them how much I love them. For all my children, I change(d)their diapers, feed them, and rock them to back to sleep in the middle of the night singing Bruno Mars, Billy Joel, and Kermit the Frog. In a positive way, my wife says that my fathering is similar to Phil Dunfy. So,is it better to be Phil Dunphy or Howard Cunningham?
Mr.C did not have to deal and adapt to situations that the modern dad has had to such as divorce, step-children, and different mothers. Dads have the same pressures of building a career and building your relationship with each of your children, making sure that you are not only meeting thier needs financially but emotionally as well. Children have easier access to information in this day and age that I did not when I was young, so as a parent I need to possess the characteristics of being diligent, real with my emotions, and one step ahead in this ever changing world.
I love ALL my children with ALL of my heart. It doesn't matter if their mother is my ex-wife or current or if I am their biological father or not. In this "You Owe Me" generation, I am ardent that my relationship with my kids is based on trust and love, not how much money I spend on them. Love is not based on materialistic things and that is the most important lesson I can pass on to them. I am happy to be a "Modern Dad"; a Phil Dunphy, a father filled with love, compassion, understanding, sensitivity, and a goofy sense of humor.
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